The Honeymoon Phase – Why You Should Run for Your Life

The honeymoon phase isn’t love.

It’s an illusion with perfect lighting.

You know it. That rush when two people meet and the body-mind is flooded with a universal sensation. It varies in intensity, but the script is familiar: “I’ve never felt like this before.” “No one’s ever made me feel this way.”

Here’s the part we don’t question. Before that moment, you already had an image created of yourself by yourself. That image was built from agreements, attachments, beliefs, traumas, and memories. The other person had theirs too.

So ask yourself… before you said those words, were you already whole? Or were you searching, struggling, feeling the lack? Be honest. You knew nothing about them. They knew nothing about you.

Most people don’t enter relationships from fullness. They enter from the same energetic movement as an addict craving “more.” And when that craving meets newness, it’s intoxicating. Someone’s giving you attention. Speaking to your value. There are no expectations yet, just novelty.

But here’s the Silent Assassin:

The moment you attach an identity to the experience, I am yours. You are mine. Boyfriend. Girlfriend. The river of newness hardens into a container called “relationship.” Once named, it’s divided. And what is divided is open to conflict.

Love doesn’t need a honeymoon.

Illusion does.